Today there is a great need for wonderful fathers. In the past, fathers as a
whole have failed our society. They have abandoned the home and left mothers
to raise children by themselves. The ones that have stayed at home have
often neglected the most important duty of fathers—and that is to be the
priests in the home.
Men know little about being a priest. They
want to be the king of their castle, but until they are willing to serve as
priest, they are not worthy to be king.
Look at the result God warned when the home
does not have a father whose heart is turned toward home.
"See, I will send you the
prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will
turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the
children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a
curse." (Mal 4:5-6)
Our land has been struck with a curse. In
the last half of the previous century we saw an incredible increase of
crime, violence, drugs and gangs—and although legislators and economists
offer various solutions, the real root of the problem is negligent fathers
and unparented children. The good news is God has promised a revival of
fatherhood in the last days.
The world has discounted the importance of
fathers, yet the biblical definition of a family is fatherhood. Paul writes,
“For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in
heaven and on earth derives its name.” (Eph 3:14-15) The Greek word “family”
is patria and it is derived from the root pater. For those who
know either Greek or Latin, you recognize that this word means “father.” To
define a family in the biblical sense, therefore, is to call it
“fatherhood.” Without a father, there is no family. The proof of this is
that the family gets their name from the father.
Don’t misunderstand me, single mothers
should not feel inferior. Society accepts single mothers with children as
families, and they should; I’m only pointing out the biblical definition of
a family. This concept should clearly show the importance of fathers. Also,
the biblical definition of an orphan is to be “fatherless.” It’s not to be
without both parents, but to simply be without a father, and so we have a
whole flock of children in our land who are orphans. Without fathers the
family cannot grow to become all God intended for it. The father is the root
of the family, and if the root is bad, the family will likely have trouble.
On the other hand, where there is a godly father, the children often are
We are bombarded with lies from Hollywood
and television. They tell us that men are not important. Television has gone
from “Fathers Knows Best” to “Homer Simpson.” If we listen to them long
enough, we might conclude that fathers are a necessary evil, rather than a
vital root to family success.
Revelation of God as Father
Not only does the Bible define family in
terms of the father, but Jesus revealed the most important title that God
enjoys is “Father”. Jesus prayed to God, "I have manifested Your name to the
men whom You have given Me out of the world. (John 17:6, NKJV) What name was
new to the disciples? They already knew the name Yahweh, but they were not
accustomed to the name “Father.” Jesus called God Father more than any other
title. In fact, He almost exclusively used the name Father in reference to
Since Father is the greatest title we can
ascribe to God, then it stands to reason that Father is the ultimate name we
can obtain. Every man should be proud to be called father. Even a single man
is called to be a father to the fatherless. Fatherhood should be exalted as
the greatest job for man.
Yet men, instead of embracing the greatest
call, have shunned from it. They have felt inadequate. Sometimes selfishness
causes them to hide from this high calling. Perhaps they want to be a
father, but they have no earthly example of one.
It is my desire through this article to
help you discover your true calling as a man and to explain what the calling
entails for you.
the Example of Fatherhood
How can we know what a father should be
like? Well, since God is called Father, we can look to Him; however since
God is invisible it is quite difficult to exemplify fatherhood from an
invisible God. So Jesus says, “Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.”
Isaiah prophesied the coming of Christ,
For to us a child is born,
to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he
will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince
of Peace. (Isa 9:6)
Notice carefully who Jesus is to God! To us a son is
given. Whose son is He? He is God’s Son! God says about Him, "This is my
Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased." (Matt 3:17) He is a son
that God gave. Jesus is to God, a Son. But to us we will
call Him the everlasting Father.
Now don’t confuse the nature of the
trinity. 1 There is one God in three persons. Jesus relates to
God as a Son, but relates to us as a father. How is that possible? Let me
explain. Hebrews 2:10 says,
Both the one who makes men
holy and those who are made holy are of the same family. So Jesus is not
ashamed to call them brothers.
Jesus calls us brothers, because He is the firstborn
among many brothers. (Rom 8:29) However, as the elder son, He takes the
responsibility to be the Father to the children. Notice the Hebrew writer
continues. He says that Jesus cries out,
"Here am I, and the
children God has given me.” (Heb 2:13)
It was normal in biblical times for the
oldest son to take the responsibility as father to his brothers. In fact
when the father died, the eldest son would receive the entire inheritance,
and he would then take care of his brothers like the father did. So Jesus is
both the firstborn among the brothers and the father to them.
So to understand what it is like to be
father, we simply need to look at Christ. Jesus is the example fathers
should follow. And what example did He give? The Hebrew writer continues,
For this reason he had to
be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a
merciful and faithful high priest in service to God…(Heb 2:17)
Notice that Jesus main function for his brothers
is to be a faithful priest to God. A priest represents his family to
God. How God views the father is the way God will view the family. The main
intercessor is the priest, and in this case, the father.
Yet too often fathers vacate the office of
priest and by default place the mothers as priests. This is not God’s order
or pattern. Just as fathers cannot take the place of mothers, mothers cannot
take the place of fathers. Fathers are to be the priests in the home.
One word describes the duty of a priest:
sacrifice. The father should sacrifice for the family. Yet, often the
children sacrifice for the happiness of the father. If the father wants a
new car, often the children will sacrifice clothes for school so that father
could have his new toy. Even entertainment becomes the choice of the father.
If he wants to go to Las Vegas, then never mind the lack of children’s
activities, they are going to Las Vegas. He does not want Disney Land,
because that is for kids. He often refuses to sacrifice for his children.
The worse way a father does not sacrifice
for his children is his unwillingness to keep a marriage alive. He often has
selfish sensual needs, so if he is not happy with his wife, then never mind
the need for the family to have both mother and father at home, he leaves
the wife so he can enjoy his revelry. The children are the ones who suffer
Outside of the obvious concept of
sacrifice, there are three important areas by which a father can offer
sacrifices for his children.
1.Offering a Sacrifice of Thanksgiving.
Our main ministry as priests is mentioned
in Hebrews 13:15: Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice
of praise to God, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name.
Few are aware of the fact that the best way
to lift up people is by giving God thanks for them. Many children feel
embittered, lonely, and depressed because they do not feel wanted. Without a
father showing gratitude for his children, the children are likely to carry
with them a spirit of rejection. Even if the mother shows her love, that is
often not enough.
Consider Jesus on the cross. He cried out,
“My God, My God, why have you forsaken me.” The Father had turned His face
from Christ because Jesus became our sin substitute. Here is the point:
Jesus’ mother was at his feet weeping and showing her deep love for her son,
but that was not enough! He needed the love and acceptance of the Father!
The same is true of children. Mothers can
show much love, but without the father showing his love and gratitude, the
children will feel rejected.
The one warning the apostle Paul gives to
fathers is found in two epistles: Fathers, do not exasperate your
children (Eph 6:4) and Fathers, do not embitter your children, or
they will become discouraged. (Col 3:21) Both passages in essence say
the same thing. This caution should clearly show the weakest area among
fathers—and that is their tendency to “put down” their children. The remedy
is simple: give God thanks for them. Lay your hands on your children and
pray, “Father God, I want to thank You for my child.” A smile will break
across the face of your child. They will know they are wanted.
You might say, “Yeah, that would be easy if
I had reasons to give thanks, but my children are not such great kids.”
Listen, giving thanks is a sacrifice! Sacrifice implies doing something that
you do not feel like doing. If we felt like it, it would cease to be a
sacrifice. Do it fathers, and you will see the redeeming hand of God work in
2.Offering the Sacrifice of Intercession.
A priest is known for prayer: Because
Jesus lives forever, he has a permanent priesthood. Therefore he is able to
save completely those who come to God through him, because he always lives
to intercede for them. (Heb 7:24-25) Samuel was the priest to Israel and
he exclaimed, “As for me, far be it from me that I should sin against the
LORD by failing to pray for you.” (1 Sam 12:23)
Fathers, as priests, you must pray for your
children. It is a sin against the LORD to fail to pray for them. Job is a
great example of one who prayed for his children:
His sons used to take
turns holding feasts in their homes, and they would invite their three
sisters to eat and drink with them. When a period of feasting had run its
course, Job would send and have them purified. Early in the morning he would
sacrifice a burnt offering for each of them, thinking, "Perhaps my children
have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." This was Job's regular custom.
Job was called the most righteous man in
the entire east. He showed his true concern for his children by offering
intercession, and the Bible says it was his regular custom. He made
it a habit to pray for his children. His greatest concern was for their
spiritual life. He wanted to make sure they were forgiven if they had sinned
or cursed God silently in their hearts.
A critic might say, “All of them were
killed in a freak accident! What good did Job’s prayers do for his
Let’s look closely at his story! In the
end, the Bible says,
After Job had prayed for
his friends, the LORD made him prosperous again and gave him twice as much
as he had before. (Job 42:10)
How much more was Job blessed in the end? He was
blessed twice as much as he had before. Look carefully at the
description of his possessions before and after.
He had seven sons and
three daughters, and he owned seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels,
five hundred yoke of oxen and five hundred donkeys, and had a large number
of servants. (Job 1:1-3)
Compare that with what he ended up with:
The LORD blessed the
latter part of Job's life more than the first. He had fourteen thousand
sheep, six thousand camels, a thousand yoke of oxen and a thousand donkeys.
And he also had seven sons and three daughters. (Job 42:12-13)
You will notice that he received twice as
many animals as was lost in the accident, but the scriptures says, And he
also had seven sons and three daughters. He had the same number of
children as before! How could that be if he was blessed twice as much?
Halleluiah! Do you get it? Job did not lose his children for eternity. Yes,
they died in their home when a cyclone hit it, but their souls were saved!
In the end, Job had twice as many sons and daughters in heaven. His prayers
for his children were answered. God had forgiven them and brought them to
Sometimes we may not understand the manner
in which prayers are answered, but be sure to know that if you prayed and
claimed the benefits of Calvary’s cross then God will answer. This is the
duty of the father as priest.
3.Offering the Sacrifice of Religious Duty.
A priest is the religious leader in the
home. He must sacrifice the lamb. That is his job. He must also apply the
blood over the mercy seat. So it is with the fathers. Fathers must apply the
blood over their family. Consider the first Passover:
Tell the whole community
of Israel that on the tenth day of this month each man is to take a lamb for
his family, one for each household. (Ex 12:3)
Notice that the father was to pick out the lamb? It
says, “Each man is to take a lamb for his family.” It was the
father’s duty to select the lamb and apply the blood over his home.
Then they are to take some
of the blood and put it on the sides and tops of the doorframes of the
houses where they eat the lambs. (Ex 12:7)
This religious act was to be performed by the fathers.
Yet, too often, fathers let the mothers take the responsibility for religion
in the home! They often send the kids off to church with the mothers, and
the fathers stay home to watch television. I believe the failure of fathers
to take their religious obligations seriously has weakened Christianity.
As a priest in your home, sir, you must be
the spiritual leader in the family and set an example for your children. You
should arise early every Sunday and get your children ready for church. You
should lead them to the house of worship. They should see you singing the
hymns and praises in your congregation. They should watch you reading the
Bible. They should observe you praying! You are the priest!
It is time for fathers to take the role of
priests seriously in the home. The result will be forthcoming! You will be
proud to see how successful your children will become in the Lord!
oneness sect confuses the roll of Jesus to God with Jesus to
us. They misrepresent Isaiah 9:6 as claiming that in the Godhead Jesus is
the Father, but the passage does not say that God calls Him the everlasting
father. He is called “A son” by God. So to God He is the Son that was
given. But to us He is the father that is received.